This past weekend I saw a status on Facebook from a company that I follow. They were re-posting a video created by a Dad who had videoed snippets from every Saturday morning with his daughter for several months. In the shots you see half of the Dad’s face as he’s sitting at his computer while the camera records his daughter in the background. You see his daughter in fancy dress, dancing about, playing with dollies, creating Play Doh sculptures and generally having a grand old time. You see the Dad glancing at the camera periodically and more often than not rolling his eyes. Occasionally his daughter bee-bops over to her Daddy and all he can manage to do is grimace or frown at her.
Now don’t get me wrong. I am not totally devoid of a sense of humour (like some nasty commenters felt the need to tell me on that FB thread). That Dad obviously saw the comedy value in his daughter’s particularly entertaining and “girly” behaviour and created the video as a tongue-in-cheek look at the joys and tribulations of parenting. I hope. I know parenting can sometimes be a right pain in the bum. When your children are trying your last nugget of patience, are exceptionally hyper and loud or watching Frozen for the 800th time in a row, we all sigh a bit and wonder how soon bedtime is. Being a parent is a hard job. Saturday mornings can be particularly challenging but my first impression when I saw this Daddy’s video was “How sad is that? He thinks his daughter is annoying. Maybe he should join in with her instead of rolling his eyes at her?”
I am not some Super Mum who has infinite levels of patience and revels in every single thing her children do. What I am, however, is exceptionally grateful for the time I have with these two little miracles who sometimes drive me cuckoo. I personally know several parents who would give anything to have their children back in their lives to drive them to distraction. We never know when our comfortable lives will be thrown into disarray. Why waste those precious moments? Some people have lost those moments forever. Be grateful for everything you have and show that appreciation by being PRESENT in your children’s lives and not wishing them away. Children will be children: trying, challenging, delightful, energetic, loud, bouncy, smiley. Nurture that. You are only young once! Embrace it. Appreciate it. Remember what it’s like to have fun. Stop rolling your eyes and join in with your children so you have those memories when you are rocking on the porch 30 years from now.
“Never take someone for granted. Hold every person close to your heart because you might wake up one day and realise you’ve lost a diamond while you were busy collecting stones.”